Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Has it really been THIS long?
Thursday, August 06, 2009
Random updates
- I have been putting off a pedicure for months. Even a self - pedicure (foot scrubbing in the shower is also down to an all time low). I blame it on the weather...I think I get annoyed with the heat and with all the maintenance a human body takes and let it go down the drain till I can't stand it any longer. I'm getting there...soon!
-While we're still on the beauty topic, did I mention I needed a facial and a brow makeover too? The brows have been suffering too...given my overall disinterest to look after the body phase. One of the girlfriends did pass on the contact info for an Indian lady who operates out of her home and offers promising facials. I'm nervous about facials in this country. My first Summer in NC (would you believe this is my third??? It's the longest I have stayed in any state in the past 7 years :) ) I went to a Spa voted as the best in the area and spent 100 (wtf) bucks on a facial. The ambience was great but the beautician was watching the clock the whole time. And she put me in a wrap that was supposed to heat up (did I mention how I cannot stand being in a hot pocket?). So while I came out glowing, I was not happy. Is there anybody that will deal with all the blackheads and not complain about spending more than 50 mins doing their job? So...the new chick will get a try. At 1/4 the cost I am willing to get 4 facials done if need be to get those suckers out!
So all this time, while I am going from grunge to grungier, the husband is busy taking his 31st year of life to a whole new level (yes, he turned a page on 30, but he still looks like a school kid. Maybe in my eyes he'll remain twenty for life!) . He has a boot camp class at the gym he attends religiously and is constantly showing off his abs, while I can only show off tires and flab and the occassional tricep that's soon going to fade into oblivion. Note to self: Look into purchasing loose weights (yeah, nice pun, no?). Atleast while warming the couch one can tone some muscles...
- Shopping for mom is fun! Especially, when she'll wear what you got and be all praise. Yes, mommy's a visiting. Thanks to her I get to eat chapatis everyday (although they are the huge north indian style two fold rotis) and can hope to lose a few pounds having reduced rice to an occassional meal or a small side. Mom's actually more serious about her weight than I am...tsk tsk...the young these days.
- I have realized after two consecutive Saturdays of late nights (wrapping up 2 am or later in bed by 3) that I cannot handle them when they come back to back like this. I need a break. Our Saturdays are increasingly spent mostly outside browsing stores and what not pushing chores out to Sunday. If there's alcohol on Saturday nights, Sundays are so much worse. I feel drained, dehydrated but I can't not do my chores. So by the time evening comes I feel like I need to hit the sack. This Sunday night I tucked myself in at 10, read the Kite Runner until 10.30 and promptly fell asleep. For a change, Monday morning was refreshing (of course I woke up at 7.45...) Getting old! Sigh...
- I am truly convinced we will never find bedroom furniture. NEVER. EVER. We look around, look around some more but we're never convinced. For a change I like something but the sticker shock won't losen it's grip. Then we wonder if it's worth spending upwards of 3K for matching bedroom furniture and we won't succumb to the Ikeas of the world either. GAAAHHHHH - Watched the hysterical wedding march video? No? I'm sure if you searched for wedding dance on youtube you'd find it. It's worth a laugh!
- I want to be able to take off every weekend. Just hop in the car and go somewhere fun. We tend to take our chores too seriously and eat at home too much (I am sure someone will disagree).
- Did I share my newfound love for Walmart? Walmart and I have had an on again off again relationship. While I am not the one to be buying clothes and shoes from walmart (call me brand conscious, pseudo, whatever...Walmart does not cater to my needs, I'd rather go to Macys and find me bargains from their clearance racks, thank you very much!) and I hated going there on weekends due to the HUMONGOUS lines, there's a spanking new walmart near work, they keep veggies too and it's the perfect stop for grocery shopping after work. What's more, they are really a few cents cheaper than any other store on the block! So, until this new Walmart starts to lose its sparkle and shine, the relationship is ON!
That's all I have for now...
Monday, June 22, 2009
The Human Touch
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
This actually moved me to tears!
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Not so Shiney after all?
It's when the rich and illustrious expose their underbellies, that we get to know the harsh realities that face us. He's supposed to be in custody until June 18 for his heinous crime that he claims was consentual. We'll find out more as the story unfolds, but I am just totally disappointed. Shame on you, Shiney!
Edited to Add: I had opened a new post but never quite wrote it. don't go by the date on this one - I had no clue about this until Sunday night (6/14) when R announced what he read on Mid-day.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
When to love is to let go...
Loving and losing are a part of life. There are several famous quotes I could rattle off on the topic and often they seem awfully cliché. Some might even call them philosophical, but when you go through those emotions and come out wiser and older, you know they hold true.
A dear family member has been having a tough time grappling with the changes in his life. After years of being in a relationship, complacency sets in and anything that is different from the “old normal” is abnormal. Me being older (ahem! And wiser…) I had to give him sound advice and put his fears to rest. Having been through some of those emotions myself, the attempt at putting him to ease helped me take a step back and re-evaluate my own experiences.
Many moons ago, R had asked me to read a famous book called “who moved my cheese”. I have seen the book on various bookshelves through my growing years. But it never moved me enough to want to read it. When R recommended it, we were having our own set of issues and I was adamant I wouldn’t read it because I feared it would somehow prove him right.
We moved on and have been happily married for over two years. In retrospect, it all seems so childish. It is freaky how different life is when you’re 23 versus when you’re 27. R’s older brother had once made a comment, “you both have to grow up together…” I keep those words close to my heart. And through the years I have reminded myself that nobody said this was going to be easy.
Growing up is tough, being in love is tough and life is not a bed of roses. You don’t always get what you want and sometimes you have to put ‘us’ before you think about ‘I’. I am not trying to say that life is all serious and no fun. But you have to put things in perspective. Change is the only constant, times change, people change, life changes. To imagine your life will always stay the same is, well…romantic!
And this I find true not only of romantic relationships but when you share a close bond with another person, this is true. When you are closely bound, you have certain expectations. Expectations lead to let downs, let downs lead to heartache. Relationships have to be worked on. Anything that grows, need nurturing and care. Most of all, you need space. Space to grow, space to think.
Being in love is not all about having rose tinted glasses on and saying "I love you" every few hours of the day. The real test of love is in the hardships. It is not how well you do when times are good, it's how you perform when times are bad that matters. Every relationship reaches a stage where the going gets tough. The ones that adapt and press on to make it through, eventually come out stronger. Those that find it too hard to move on and cling on too tightly to the past, often will turn so brittle that they will eventually break under pressure.
It's like that old proverb, when you love someone, let them go. If they love you, they'll come right back?
Things have changed for the better for my family members. And I hope that they understand and are wiser by their own experience that it's important to keep things in perspective and adapt to changes in your life.
So let one of your grudges or peeves go today. You'll come through feeling a lot less burdened by the baggage of your expectations.