Monday, June 22, 2009
The Human Touch
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
This actually moved me to tears!
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Not so Shiney after all?
It's when the rich and illustrious expose their underbellies, that we get to know the harsh realities that face us. He's supposed to be in custody until June 18 for his heinous crime that he claims was consentual. We'll find out more as the story unfolds, but I am just totally disappointed. Shame on you, Shiney!
Edited to Add: I had opened a new post but never quite wrote it. don't go by the date on this one - I had no clue about this until Sunday night (6/14) when R announced what he read on Mid-day.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
When to love is to let go...
Loving and losing are a part of life. There are several famous quotes I could rattle off on the topic and often they seem awfully cliché. Some might even call them philosophical, but when you go through those emotions and come out wiser and older, you know they hold true.
A dear family member has been having a tough time grappling with the changes in his life. After years of being in a relationship, complacency sets in and anything that is different from the “old normal” is abnormal. Me being older (ahem! And wiser…) I had to give him sound advice and put his fears to rest. Having been through some of those emotions myself, the attempt at putting him to ease helped me take a step back and re-evaluate my own experiences.
Many moons ago, R had asked me to read a famous book called “who moved my cheese”. I have seen the book on various bookshelves through my growing years. But it never moved me enough to want to read it. When R recommended it, we were having our own set of issues and I was adamant I wouldn’t read it because I feared it would somehow prove him right.
We moved on and have been happily married for over two years. In retrospect, it all seems so childish. It is freaky how different life is when you’re 23 versus when you’re 27. R’s older brother had once made a comment, “you both have to grow up together…” I keep those words close to my heart. And through the years I have reminded myself that nobody said this was going to be easy.
Growing up is tough, being in love is tough and life is not a bed of roses. You don’t always get what you want and sometimes you have to put ‘us’ before you think about ‘I’. I am not trying to say that life is all serious and no fun. But you have to put things in perspective. Change is the only constant, times change, people change, life changes. To imagine your life will always stay the same is, well…romantic!
And this I find true not only of romantic relationships but when you share a close bond with another person, this is true. When you are closely bound, you have certain expectations. Expectations lead to let downs, let downs lead to heartache. Relationships have to be worked on. Anything that grows, need nurturing and care. Most of all, you need space. Space to grow, space to think.
Being in love is not all about having rose tinted glasses on and saying "I love you" every few hours of the day. The real test of love is in the hardships. It is not how well you do when times are good, it's how you perform when times are bad that matters. Every relationship reaches a stage where the going gets tough. The ones that adapt and press on to make it through, eventually come out stronger. Those that find it too hard to move on and cling on too tightly to the past, often will turn so brittle that they will eventually break under pressure.
It's like that old proverb, when you love someone, let them go. If they love you, they'll come right back?
Things have changed for the better for my family members. And I hope that they understand and are wiser by their own experience that it's important to keep things in perspective and adapt to changes in your life.
So let one of your grudges or peeves go today. You'll come through feeling a lot less burdened by the baggage of your expectations.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
my favorite verse...
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Ityadi, Ityadi, Ityadi
There are many names for a vagina. Ever heard of the Vagina Monologues? No, well get the gist of what it is/was at Wikipedia. I was reading Mid-Day and came across this video, a bunch of theatre actors rehearsing for the Marathi adaptation of the original Eve Ensler series at Ravindra Natya Mandir at Prabhadevi, Bombay. I watched it and for all those (girls) of you that understand Marathi, I thought this would be worth sharing. It's actually funny and some of what the women say is actually true :)
We're so accustomed to keeping our privates err...private that we're almost ashamed of referring to them as Vaginas. We all have different names associated with it...pee pee, vajayjay, or worse and more derogatory. But that the center of a woman's being is repressed is an understatement. I hope to catch the broadway series some day. I can't say that I will not burst into girlish giggles when I hear some of the monologues but I am sure it will be as much fun and liberating as a pedicure with girlfriends, or a gossip session on the phone!
Watch and enjoy this rehearsal video if you understand Marathi.
Friday, April 17, 2009
The one in which GG was TOTALLY and UTTERLY Surprised!!
"How come I didn't know??"